Cat is a facilitator, educator, event promoter and organizer, and minister-in-training. In one-on-one settings, Cat helps people gain perspective and clarity around a variety of life stressors. Her work is from the perspective of spiritual growth and development. Facilitating greater self-acceptance, problem-solving and healing, her methods allow people to get “unstuck” and reprioritize life goals. She has 20+ years of grief, trauma and recovery counseling experience, along with a deep familiarity with 12 step principles and other techniques for creating positive change. She has assisted clients with navigating pitfalls associated with addiction and codependency, coming to terms with loss, identifying and surpassing obstacles, improving relationship dynamics with the understanding that our relationship with Spirit/Divine/Universe is what ultimately heals all things.

 

7 Steps for getting unstuck in life

 

1) Preparation – This is the beginning. No thing in life is accomplished without proper preparation. This work is challenging, but immensely valuable. This is a deep dive into what is really going on, what is the story behind the story. I’m talking about getting past the story you have always told yourself. We know a version of our story, the one on the surface. We tell it over and over until we are sure that it is who and what we are. But if you are feeling stuck, if there are areas of your life that you feel like you can’t understand or you can’t make better, then there is a story behind the story. And when the fear of not changing becomes greater than the fear of changing, you will be prepared to move on

2) Revelation – As we look at our “story”, we realize that we are on a fact-finding mission. What is going on now? What are the areas of your life that you would like to be able to change? We will look at methods to facilitate this process that are tailored to you.

3) Observations  – Next we begin digging beneath the story. We get quiet and look at the things we tell ourselves. Things like “I don’t know how to organize my time” “I can’t figure out how to make things work” “My partner drinks too much and I don’t know what to do” “There are things I know I have to do and I can’t seem to get them done” “I would like my life to feel better than it does” “I am the way I am because I am not supported, and I never have been” “I am afraid of how I’m going to feel if things change”

4) Examination – As we become comfortable with the process of introspection, we start asking the harder questions. Go back over the things you have been looking at. By now you should also be more comfortable with the silence that comes from contemplation. Go deeper. Start asking yourself specific questions. “What do I do with my time?”

5) Discovery – The next step toward freedom is uncovering our habits. What are we doing and why? Are there things that we know we should be doing, but we find distractions? Some of these are more obvious than others. Things that can be done addictively – drinking, drugs, shopping, gambling, smoking, sex, caring for others…but what about the less obvious things – cleaning, sleeping, reading,

6) Recovery – If you have heard the phrase “codependency”, but aren’t sure what it means, there is a chance that you are struggling with one or more aspects of it, especially if your relationships aren’t what you would like them to be.

Some of the more troublesome issues are: difficulty with boundaries, taking care of others – at your expense or theirs, not being able to answer the questions, “who am I?” “what do I like?” “what do I want to do?”, agreeing to do things for others, even when you really don’t want to, can’t or don’t have the time, needing to take care of or “fix” others in order to have a sense of purpose, wanting others to do the “right” thing and trying to influence their language, dress, behavior, etc., and ultimately taking care of everyone and everything, not feeling appreciated and being mad about it.

7) Integration – We take everything you have discovered, forced yourself to confront and ultimately come to understand, and create a plan for integrating the changes in all areas of your life.

This program is customized for each person. Please contact us for evaluation and pricing